What if nobody needs you?.

Some psychologists already call depression the disease of the third millennium, others are less pessimistic in this regard. But those who are at least a little familiar with the statistics on the topic are forced to admit: an increasing number of people suffer from loneliness. It would seem that these days there are all the means for communicating with friends, relatives and even completely strangers, interesting personalities from any corner of the vast planet. What is the problem then? Why in the 21st century do we feel more isolated from society, unhappy and lonely than ever? And what if no one needs you?

Illusion or reality?

Even Tolstoy noticed that all happy families are the same. This statement can be understood in a broader sense. Have you ever seen people satisfied with their lives? If you remember these, you will probably notice that they are somewhat subtly similar to each other. Firstly, they do not complain about negative conditions, circumstances, and indeed practically nothing. Secondly, such people have the ability to value what they have. And it often looks even strange. Someone else has more money, useful connections, a more beautiful house, a more prestigious job, etc., but the “lucky one” still gives the impression of a calmer and more prosperous person. Thirdly, and this is the main thing, individuals who are satisfied with life always feel that they are part of something greater: families where they love and wait, a work collective where they value them, societies where everything is not so bad, etc. They don't seem to know the feeling of loneliness and uselessness.

It does not happen that a person is always lucky in everything. Any result requires an investment of effort, time, attention, which is especially important when it comes to relationships between people. Individuals who are lonely and feel useless to anyone, as a rule, overlook this particular trifle. They accuse everyone around that they are not loved, do not understand, do not appreciate, do not pay attention to them, etc. At the same time, they forget to ask themselves: how did I myself help others?

Looking at the “lucky ones” from the outside, it seems as if good relationships and a sense of being needed by others make them happy. But things are a little different. Those who think so, simply for their convenience, change the causal relationship. In reality, a person makes efforts to create harmonious relationships with others, so others are drawn to him. Do you feel the difference? Of course, it is easier to decide that bad luck is to blame for your loneliness, and not your own unwillingness to find a common language. But in this case, you completely deprive yourself of the opportunity to change something.

Leaving into the world of his painful experiences, depression, analysis and self-examination, a person focuses and concentrates on them, voluntarily breaks ties with others and therefore feels useless to anyone. This process occurs voluntarily, it is internal. But the plus is that you can also refuse to live in the illusion of inferiority, loneliness. Even if you can't even remember what united you emotionally with your friends and family. The main thing is to take small steps every day to restore relations. Just remember: loved ones probably love, appreciate and wait for you, and everything else is the notions of a depressed mind and the result of focusing on the negative. So don't make your family wait even longer!

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